We have been gaslit by society, and people like Sophia Amoruso, who coined the term “girlboss” - the calling card of white feminism - that if we just "hustle and grind," and "get our asses up and work," a la Kim Kardashian, we'll finally find success and be able to exhale and sip our margaritas on the beach. But we know this is a lie. This is the myth of meritocracy and "pulling yourself up by your bootstraps" that funded Jeff Bezos' trip to outer space.
Have you ever wondered where does my trauma end and where do I begin? When we begin our healing journey we may find ourselves asking this question and possibly grieving for the ways in which our personality, outward expression, and internal world has been shaped so much by our trauma.